2 steps forward, 3 back

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P.S. H did make a comment that bothered me - when talking about his job moving regarding coverage for the kids - he made a comment that "he was a big boy now" and he could take care of himself. that hurt. I think I said something like if I didn't think he was I wouldn't want him back. kinda low I said it. He never did much, that's why I took over many things. I never told him what to do for a living or to get a better job. We talked about it but I never pressured him to do anything he didn't want to do. I can't imagine him coming back to as he calls me controlling and now I think he is a baby and needs me to do everything. I really never did. These were roles we fell into. So the 180 might help me here - my gut was to offer my help on something but now I will be careful not to do it for almost anything.