shiny, he told me he doesn't know why I don't just tell him to get out. I told him I did that 'back then' but he didn't have anywhere to go. I think you have a good point, or maybe it is just reinforcing what I already know, that I need my own outside interests and less focus on him. I think it all stems from him having been becoming detached himself for years before the bomb. I have myself to blame for that, I know I didn't treat him right for many years. But I think that if the M is not a priority for him than it won't be for me either. Lisa
