Lisa, that MUST have been one hell of a blow to you!!
Just HOW comfortable is this man? I mean PUHLEEASE! He wants to continue the comfort of your "arrangement" while fulfilling himself outside of your M??????
Now if this were OKAY with YOU, say you felt the same way and had tons of interests that came first for you, well then FINE. But I get the distinct sense that like any sane person this is NOT okay with you!!!
So the question is, what to do?
You say he misses you, wants you to wait up on Fridays, enjoys your weekends together? There may be some room for 180's there. That is, if you think shaking things up a bit might help take his blinders off.
How about if you are out late with friends or already asleep on friday nights? Plans for the weekend? Join some organization yourself?
I just get the sense your H wants to "have his cake and eat it too". Have all the perks of your M, the company, etc. without having to really "focus on it" or put any of his precious energy into building it into something primary in his life.
Do you think this might be a transitory phase for him? Is he just too comfortable and thinks you'll just go along with this? Does he think you're too scared of losing him to put up much of a fuss?
DId you tell him how upset this made you? Does he KNOW this isn't okay with you? That might be your first move if you haven't already made it.
