Hi, it's been awhile. Brief history, M 19 years at time of bomb ( that was Feb of '02). Typical MLC stuff, "Not in love with you anymore". Kids were 13 and 16 at the time. H wanted us to D and remain living together for the sake of the kids. Boy did he have his head up his A$$!!!!!
Well here we are 16 months later, H doesn't want his blasted D anymore, we have become much closer after much DB'ing on my part and him realizing that he didn't want out as bad as he had himself convinced. However just yesterday we were talking and he told me that the M is not his focus, his focus is his Volunteer Fire Fighting hobby, his self defense class and climbing mountains. (We live in Colorado, I'm referring to 14'ers).
This latest revelation of his makes me feel like detaching big time and finding something to do that keeps me away from the house more than I already am. H works 3:30pm-11:00pm shift and I work at 6 am, M-F but I get home early on T+Th and we see each other about 2 hours on those days, not at all M-W, on Fridays I wait up for him and he looks forward to it, texts me and asks if I'm waiting up. It doesn't count when he gets home and I'm in bed already for 2 hours. And then on weekends we see each other which helps, because he misses me.( I don't mean to sound cocky, but I can tell!) This shift is new for him, just since April when he got laid off and was forced to take an evening job. My shift didn't change.
I will continue to be the wife I started changing into 16 months ago but I think a big detachment is in order when he really isn't focusing on the M. Any opinions or advice from you wise people here? Thanks, Lisa
