OK, well, if you can find a way to educate your Pastor he's your best card to play.

Everyone is going to follow HIS lead.

He needs to understand she isn't just being childish, she's ill and needs medical attention.

I don't know him or his response to you in detail so I can't advise yo uon how to play that card best.

Just emailing people url's insn't enough

And that Psychology Today article was WAY TOO LONG.

This article i showed you today is SHORT and focuses more on that the marriage should be saved and how you can help.

That psychology today article is useless for family members, not to mention intimidating.

Look at your method of education here Buster, throwing them a 10+ pp article in a email isn't educating anyone. Is that how schools educate people?

Hardly...they print [censored] up, they HAND it to you, and TALK to you about it until you take the time to read it.

They impress upon you how important the material is.