Poet, read the whole thread first please, your strategies have actually backfired in Buster's case and aren't working in the slightest. Moving back in is the best option for him to my knowledge.
Mark he agrees it's an addiction and 'a phase' and he said he would give her a piece of his holy thoughts but she won't go see him. We all know that. The parents are a lost cause. I told them about catching them the other day and calling the cops, and all they said was that she is clucked up and to cut my losses and move on. Parents will do JACK [censored].
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
Also, getting family involved CAN help if they are SUPPORTIVE.
If they are NOT suppoortive it does NOT mean not to get them involved, it means you get them involved in an educative sense FIRST and then go to them for support once they understand what affairs involve.
You don't go to a 3rd grader for help landing an airplane. Of course you won't seek family out for support if they aren't educated. But that doesn't mean giving up on your family, it means educating them.
If you give up on your family, that sends a message to the WWS that you have given up. Its suicide to give up on friends and family who are merely uneducated.
mark I sent her parents and friends the URL from psychology today on affairs being addiction. That's as far as it went. We need to get something straight. It's not that they don't understand. They know she is screwed up.To them it is my problem and I need to rid myself of her. They WILL NOT BUDGE. They have better things to do
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
Told her last week the pastor wanted to talk to her and his door is open. Think she went or considered it ? NOPE. I repeat, I have educated them on your teachings. They are too busy too care. It isn't a big deal to them
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
Printing them up copies of the article and handing it to them, telling them if they love their daughter they will read it is educating them.
Telling them that she needs your help and her famlies help is educating them.
They think that you should be rid of her becuase they think she's just acting out and childish...shes ILL, emotionally ILL.
HOpefully if you share the article with the pastor, printing it up and handing it to him, he will educate himself and your family.
Deciding an alcoholic is useless and that you should be rid of them is just a ridiculous and immature approach. They are ill and need HELP, not ostracization.
Sometimes the educative process meets resistance and takes time.
