Note : Detaching does NOT mean giving up. Detaching does NOT mean surrendering to her demands. Detaching does NOT mean to stop loving your wife. Detaching does NOT mean you stop wanting your marriage.
Detaching means you withold your feelings FROM her not for her. She wants to feel you care and love her, but that isn't helping you, detaching means showing her indifference instead.
You aren't doing that. You are feeding her ego non-stop and it doesn't seem to be helping you.
You can try detaching or moving in, or both, its your call, but right now you need to shake things up a bit and change your approach.
You aren't supposed to do any approach at length if it isnt showing significant signs of working.
Giving your wife space and her own home WAS a good try, but she's just using it to bring OM over and ruin memories of your family home. The object was to leave her stay there so it would remind her, but she's decided to hide the entire home with memories of her OM instead.
that's why we reccomended you moving in..keep your dignity and movein. She will threaten and be angry...ignore it.
