Please, please go to my thread. Twindad has been advising me every step of the way. Please read his posts on my thread. We really are not to expect ANYTHING from either side of the family. My family has been supportive, but my brother still wants me to let him go.
I have also had interactions with my pastor. He has done what I asked, but it pushed my H further away. Your pastor is smart not to intervene.
Buster, I think you would really benefit from my thread. Honest! I may be stupid, but I ain't crazy.