"This should be PLANNED WELL by you, but don't tell her you are planning it. Its a big move and all variables should be considered. But it is VERY IMPORTANT that she does NOT KNOW you are planning this move."
OMG!
Mark, you are spot on! I JUST moved back home and my H still does not know. He is suspecting it, and guessing and asking, but I refuse to answer his question.
Buster, I have not read all of your sitch, but it may be the you are similar to my H in the 'wife hitting' catagory, but opposite from me in the PA category. My H is the one having the affair and D'ing me. I was the one who was showing the anger as I was finding out.
Maybe you should skim through my thread: Advice from my DB coach. Recent posts detail my moving back without H knowing. Hope this helps.
