Limboland part 4

[bookpusher]

I guess it has been awhile. Hi Steeler! I have no idea about the OW. The OW has been texting DD. I was doing some research and came across an article on the affect of affairs. It opened my eyes a little and I emailed H about it. It was interesting that he responded, in anger, right away (not that I didn't expect that...actually I expected nothing but a response was good). Here's our emails:


From me to him:
I was just told this and verified it. It scares me knowing that DD is being exposed to your affair. I do not want to see her grow up and experience the pain again. I am sure you want DD growing up as healthy as she can and it isn't good for her to see that having the affair is ok. I respect these values too. There are other articles, if you need them. Please, for DD's sake, do not expose her to it anymore.


from: http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.ht...&pagewanted=all

Parental affairs can also become the training ground for a child's adult behavior.
''Even though they may swear they will never do the same,'' Dr. Lawson noted, ''it appears to become a patterned response learned in childhood.'' A Family Tradition
In instances where a father boasts about his relationships to a teen-age son - as many do, her sampling showed - she found philandering taking on the overtones of a family tradition.
By contrast, the researchers reported, a girl who is aware of her father's behavior seems to grow up angry at men and unsure of her relationships with them.
The children who have grown up the strongest are those who had the chance to ''deal with parental infidelity openly, as an error or a character flaw, rather than normal activity or an appropriate solution to a marital problem,'' Dr. Pittman said.



His response:

It is not an affair. And DD is handling it just fine. Don't try to tell me what to do.



Me:

I will express my concerns for DD. You can do what you want but when it impacts DD, I WILL give you my opinion.
She isn't handling it as fine as you think. That is why she has thoughts of suicide and Janet wanted her on anti-depressants.


Him:

Funny the C didn't tell me that.




Me:

Better check with her again. She is the one who arranged the anti-depressants for DD's depression.



Him:

Whatever. I'm done with this for the day.



Me:

Well, thank you for at least giving me your opinion. I am sure you care about DD as much as I do.



Him:

I do