Oh, I'm not Mrs., certainly not Miss...I guess I leave it blank or choose Ms, just because that's all that's left, but I hate Ms. No, we hadn't talked about that yet. How about Madame? Senora? Maybe not.
As for XH, usually I say something like "their dad" or I use his name. It's funny, I think about this once in a while. I feel like people, if I tell them I'm divorced, they expect me to bash my X. Most of my comments are very neutral though. Maybe that's why they don't automatically assume we're divorced, just geographically separated.
One day, a while ago, he called me to tell me that his gf had read an email I had sent him asking how he was. Just as part of the "when are you going to see the kids again" email. She took that question as me interfering in their lives. So, he called to ask me if he could send me a nasty email asking me to stay out of his f'n life and I should mind my own business. Keep all emails to strictly regarding the children, blah blah blah. Then he asked me if I could respond with something nasty in return so that she would know that I'd gotten his email. I fired one back, unleashing some previously restrained garbage...he called me the next day to ask if I really felt that way. "sometimes" lol
So, a good friend suggested that I am too close to their situation and that I should step back, for my own protection, because he felt there would be an explosion of cr@p and I should stay as far away as possible. Gee, that helps explain why I have a hard time with the divorce explanation. Maybe I'm still too involved in his life, even though he's the one telling me all about it, he feels that he has to hide that part from his gf. He was always good at being sneaky, I guess
I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.
