I've been thining a lot about the adage that is posted here a lot: don't listen to the words watch the actions.

Well I can't listen to words b/c my H doesn't communicate with me at all. The few he does say match his actions.

As for his actions he just keeps getting more and more hurtful. He has never knowingly looked back since he left.

So I probably wasted every DB move I ever made (as fas as he is concerned).

Not sure how I feel about that or why I've analysed it now but I'm sure I will find out in due course.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15