I knew something was up when I read your post on Tostada's thread and a few more of yours that showed some of that negativity creeping back again...
All I can say is that separated sucks. Your D will suffer, you will suffer too once you get to the point of having some space again. It is common for couples to hit a low point after a while, 4-6 weeks I read (repeating myself I know). John, you love your wife, you didn't go through this because you had time and efforts to waste. Obviously some self preservation insticts are kicking in becasue you don't feel as cherished and love as you would wish from her. I know you can't get over the OM and that still bothers you. Before you actually decide what to do, wouldn't be worth the effort to go to one of these Retro things, or try MC or even IC yourself. You have a lot of feelings bottled up and you need to let go of some the pain to be able to stand some more for your marriage.
Please, don't give up yet. You know I care about you and I realy, honestly believe this is only a low point. Please, don't hurry into anything. K
