Rob #9 - Don't Stop Believin'

[Jen_Jam]

I'll give you one guess what aspect of our R is the first thing to go when W gets all stressed out.... Well, the lesson for me is to not take it personally, that's where I would have blown it in the pre-DB days. So, not a huge deal - just practicing my PMA, along with remembering the ol' mantra "Time and Patience".

I'm guessing this is ML, right? We-el, I'm with your W on this one. When I am stressed out, lots of things to do, I don't want to. Then if I feel my H wants to, ML becomes another item on my "to do" list. Which takes out of it all the fun out of it.

I know you will do well on this front, but I thought I'd give you the list of things **I** like when I'm stressed out and sinking in a list of jobs to do, Maybe your W might like one or more of them?

1. I have a long bath and H comes up to scrub my back for me
2. H pours me out a glass of white wine with ice and listens to me while I talk, looking at me and nodding as I do
3. H asks me "is there anything I can do" when I'm running about like a headless chicken
4. Also when I am running about doing the boring housework stuff H will get up and start doing things too. I feel he's helping then.

Really it's a mix of him taking on some of the jobs I would do and me chilling out, then I'm all relaxed and happy and ready to get into the itsy-bitsy nighties And Rob, I'm 100% SURE you like the idea of your W in an itsy-bitsy nightie!!