Hello... My Name's NOT 'Imma Viktim'..............

[girlfromipanema]

Thank goodness you're not going anywhere. I really don't know where I would be today if I hadn't "found" you. It looks like I'll be joining you in separated, too. Or maybe Surviving the Big D? The forum we choose is somewhat symbolic, isn't it?

We'll see how I do revealing the state of our finances to spouse. His omission of involvement is just as weighing as my not keeping track of how/where the money went.

I know the fear you must be feeling. I believe it has to do with the secrecy issue, but also because of how much control he had in your marriage - the intimidation and manipulation factors make any "difficult" discussion an unbearable thought. The longer you put it off, the longer you will be miserable over his potential outburst. Let him feel angry. You have been perfectly justified to spend the money any way you see fit. Just because he went to the office everyday, doesn't mean you didn't earn your right to spend equally. I don't remember you jetting off to Greece recently... let's not forget what the infamous Uncle E says about how expensive, erm, "kitty" is. =)

Love you, sweet friend. Wish you were here (or I was there!).

Talk to you soon.

P.S. How's the tiggilicious one?