Looking for support from other WAS's

[lost3031]

H and I attended our first MC session today. Overall, it went pretty well. The counselor seemed to be very patient and non-judgmental. I thought it was rather refreshing to hear her say that, even though she fully believes in repairing the marriage, her main goal was to see that she helps us resolve the situation in a manner that satisfied both of us - whether that meant we decide to save the marriage or at least find some peace and closure with ending the marriage. I know that some people may say that we should find a counselor who is adamant about saving the marriage and allowing us no other options, but I think that her approach works for us because H and I are both very skittish right now about our life together.

After talking with the counselor, we both realize that our problems go much deeper than me being dissatisfied with him being a workaholic and the resulting OM/affair. It was difficult re-hashing all the things that we had thought we were finished discussing, and I know that it will get harder as we progress.

On a side note, I thought it was rather amusing that, after discussing how H's work has interfered with our M for all these years, H had to tell the counselor that he didn't know when he could meet with her/us again because he is going out of town for work for the next 1 - 3 weeks. At least we were able to laugh about it this time...