I have failed to provide a little insight into my Wife. According to her family, throughout her life (and she's only 22) she when feels trapped, she gives up and runs away. I guarantee to all of you, whether this sounds like a classic case or not, that if I want her back, moving in and making her feel more trapped and trying to force her to be with me in a relationship or in a house will make her hate me and push her further away. If there is a way to get her back, it is not by making her miserable and not granting a divorce, or moving back in with her. I have to let her go; I have been trying to control this relationship. I know if I didn't want to be somewhere, and someone tried trapping me there, I would hate them and resent them even more. I am getting my name off the mortgage, she will have to pay me off, and I will let her go make her own mistakes with OM. If she comes back, she'll have to earn my trust. I don't see her coming back. I have listened to everyone's suggestions about how to make her life miserable for what she's done to me, and if you could ask her, she'd say I have succeeded. There is only one way to do a 180, and that is to stop standing in the way of what she THINKS she wants. I'm letting her go, granting a divorce; she can have the house. Once she buys me out, she won't be able to afford to stay there so we'll sell it. I'm cleaning my hands, cutting my losses. I wish my wife were the kind of WAS you speak of on these boards. The kind I could force into being with me. But that is selfish. But there's only one 180 to do here, something I haven't done yet. MOVE ON. do i even deserve to waste my time trying to win someone back that does this to me ? that spits in my face by having a man in our house ? No.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
