Memories keep sneaking in....I still miss him!

[Treese]

YR....condoms??? mY H would know I set that up....but hmmmm.....you all are giving me good ideas....LOL!!

and you're right....he'll only notice when he's ready....

but the packed overnight bag I can do......although he doesn't go upstairs anymore...since he says this isn't his house anymore...

[glamgirl]

Treese I would just focus on you and not trying to get a reaction from h. You probably won't get one anyway or one that you like.

I can only go by my past experience. I would try to get h's attention saying things doing things and nothing seemed to tug at his heart strings. I am sorry to say nothing!

Everything is so bottled up tight and won't be released until they are ready.

[Treese]

Glam.....I know what you mean.....I wore the dress the other night for me...cause I felt good in it....I'm not going to bend over backwards to get a rise cause I know I won't get one...he is too in to OW right now....

[glamgirl]

Treese you are so right. That is the approach. Do it for you. I buy Victoria Secret, wear dresses, wear boots, have my hair done, nails done, not for my h, not for anyone but me.

Maybe one day they will sit up and take notice!

[yellowrose]

Treese and glam

I did those things at the beginning of my h's MLC. Yes, condoms! I was cracking up when I put those on the nightstand. My h came over and had to walk by them to use our bathroom. He saw them and you should have seen his face. We don't use condoms....

glam, you are right, they will notice when it's time. Focus on things for you and the kids. It's funny but my h "woke" up he did mention the condoms, overnight bag and all the other little things that I did.

Y

[glamgirl]

YR what did you h say after the fact? Did he really think at the time you were using them or suspicious about the overnight bag?

[Treese]

I do do it for me....I'm a girly girl....I like having my hair, my nails, and buying new clothes for me....it makes me feel good...and boy I'm getting some looks too....and not by my H....

YR....I would love to see a look like that on my H's face...it would be priceless.....

[yellowrose]

glam

He really didn't say too much other than he remembered them. I did confess after all of this was over and he smiled.

Y

[MidwesternGirl]

He smiled because he knew you would never cheat on him.

I think so many of these guys know their LBS' would never do to them what they have done to us. And, too, it is us who has to be mom and dad to the kids, take care of the house, play taxi to the kids, go to school events, etc. When would we have time????

Just an observation on my part. I may be wrong, though.

[Treese]

I totally agree with you SF......the LBS really does everything...If my H says he has to "work"...he knows I am home taking care of the kids and everything else...they know us so well...I think maybe that's why when we look as though we've really moved on that they wake up and start smelling the coffee..
Is that right YR?

My H is missing so much at home with the kids....there is something new that happens everyday and I don't even mention it to H....at the moment he really doesnt even ask about my girls AT ALL!!! This really shocks me as they were so very close....several months now and he has said nothing....it blows my mind...totally..

and time...who has that??