What stands out to me is that she just came out like that and asked for a D. And that then she started to cry. So, she's not happy with the way things are. At least we know that now.
Interesting that she thinks you and she are too different, and you can't change just for her. Would you be willing to change just for her?
Finally (sorry for the questions), why did you feel you had to ask her what to do? Speaking for myself, I didn't used to like it if H asked me what to do about around the house jobs. I wanted him to act manly and just do it without my input. Could that be an approach worth trying?
(((((Jeff)))))) thinking of you
L. xx
PS. Well done for having the conversation! I wasn't expecting that today, but am glad you did it. At last- a bit of emotion from your W! YAY!!
