This weekend I'm volunteering early tomorrow AM all day, so probably won't go out tonight. Tomorrow night, I'll probably hang out with my girlfriend who's just getting back into town. Sunday, GAL stuff.
I'm actually kind of upset right now about the "friend" thing we've been discussing. I have a male friend who recently moved back into town and was really struggling with everything, finding a job, an apartment, his girlfriend broke up with him, depression. So, I'm really supportive and kind to him, take him out to eat and drinks when he is broke and depressed and listen to him.
The last time I hung out with him, he makes all these offensive and untrue assumptions about my H, and then says, "it seems like you never had a real marriage anyway." Nevermind that he doesn't know the first thing about it, having lived away for our entire R. At the same time, he's texting his ex that he's out with me in an attempt to make her jealous, which works. She's jealous and I realize not only is he rude and insensitive about my marriage, he's using me, as his completely platonic friend trying to help him out and paying for all his drinks, to make her jealous.
Then he sends me a series of texts thanking me, telling me how much hanging out with me meant to him, and I respond with "Glad you feel better," but basically have been avoiding him since then. Today, I get a text from him asking if he could stay with me while he looks for another apartment. Groan!
So, I write him an e-mail explaining that things are really tough for me now, I'm splitting up with my H, and it's probably not a good time to stay here. I also tell him that, although it's not a big deal, I was a bit hurt about the way he was talking about my M the last time we hung out, and that I know he's going through a hard time, but to please be understanding that I am as well.
I'm probably being overly sensitive, but I just can't deal with people being jerks like that right now. I feel bad that he is having a rough time, but that doesn't excuse him.
Sorry, just needed to vent that. :0
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
