Hi Tipper, I will be your piecing buddy, if you need one!
I can try to answer your questions, but everyone's circumstances are so different, that I've found it best not to compare your timeframes to others. I think your h is alot younger than mine,and we have 3 kids, so the reasons for the mlc may be different. Who knows for sure?
My h moved out in late Aug. '07, but he was still around the house alot. I think his attitude started to change sometime around Christmas, and as time went on, he spent more and more time at home. In April '08 he said he wanted to move back, but it took awhile for things to progress in all areas, including physically.
I'm finding the C to help tremendously. It helps to have a neutral 3rd party to facilitate discussions. I would go more often, but h wants to spread out our visits more.
You ask, does he still show signs of mlc? A little, but not much (he's disenchanted with work, money is a big problem with him). I think moving out helped him to see that he wanted to be with his family, including me. It didn't hurt that I was DBing my butt off the whole time he was gone!
Try to focus on yourself, as you've been doing, and be patient, patient, patient!
