Ok not to be the stick in the mud but I have not "snooped" in over a year. No I am not sticking my head in the sand.... It is just that like JJ said "snooping is only seeing a small bit of the story" and rob “and I always feel guilty afterwards” Don't get me wrong DO NOT Beat yourself for doing it. IT'S OK. just leave the past behind and move forward. At this very fragile turning point in my marriage I do not want any Mis-understandings to cause me to start looking at the negatives again instead of concentrating on the positives. When I am ready I will ask my W how she feels about me looking at the phone log. Hopefully we will be at a point that TRUST has been regained. If I were to look now and found 1 call. It may have been my W telling the A.H.O.M to get lost for the last time. But As soon as I saw that number I know the doubts would return and I would loose all of the confidence in working through this. I mean hey if she is still calling him, Me looking will not make it undone. It will not make her stop. I can look anytime so why now when things seem to be going in the right direction. And besides what if my wife was just starting to trust ME. What if this was the turning point for her and she found out I was checking up on her? I would need to start all over building trust in me. Looking is my get out of "jail" card, I can use it anytime, but once I do it's gone...
Ok sorry for the soap box speech you can now return to your regular broadcast........
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
