I am of the opinion that you should be careful what you ask, because you might get an answer.

I am sorry this is going this way for you. I see very controlling behavior in your H, and even though he is gone, he is cake eating. Snow, my dear, change the locks toot sweet. There is no reason why this needs to continue, and you need some peace of mind. I know it is a scary thought, but trust me when I say you will feel like a great weight is lifted off your shoulders when you start taking back little pieces of you.

Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..