My WAH has no OW, has been out on his own since 4/06...has thrown the D-word out in about 5 heated spew discussions (mine and his) over the last couple years. Yet...he doesn't do anything to file. Most of the time, he avoids the D-word.
Why?
And...whenever the 'push and pull' conversation of him coming back to the family (which I guess is actually R talk...and I know that's a bad idea)...he asks me 'why do you hang on?"
That question REALLY bothers me .... when I feel pretty comfy with my detachment and have gone for weeks without contacting him. I have focused on detachment seriously for a long time. That question threatens to negate my growth!!
I feel he is back in a time that I no longer live.
Why is he hanging on?
I don't feel like I am hanging on in an unhealthy way, anymore...I am going about my life and doing things that make me feel...free.
I don't want a D....and I haven't begged him to return. But, the question 'why do you hang on?' really BUGS!!
I guess it makes me doubt myself...and of course it hurts that he doubts me so much, too.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
