thinking about how I loved it when H used to call me Babe...he hadn't done that in about 8 months. Well...today I was talking to him on the phone and he slipped and called me Babe! Probably means nothing, he just slipped, but he hasn't "slipped" in eight months. .
Changed- i got one about a week ago too! Slip or not...it makes you feel good, doesn't it? Just don't put too much stock into it....build upon those good feelings
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
hi everyone! thanks for your words of encouragement i am doing better today. my internet was down at home so ive been off longer than i would like....
yesterday i texted my H to see if he wanted to meet for a hike- he replied right away and said yes! so we took our woofie hiking and about 20 mins into it she sprung onto a skunk and got sprayed! we hiked or bit more but the stench was overwhelming so i took her home and bathed her 3 times and put anti skunk juice on her...needless to say i was a bit sad (crying for an hour) that our hike got cut short....my H looked sad too and he would have helped but he had to go to work....
during the hike we talked about my trip to NY and his bike race, etc...i alsoo threw in an invite in a few weeks to our friends house in shasta- he asked if i was going to see them so i said if you want to think about going they said there doors are open...just take time to think about it- he said ok- ill think about it.. i said i missed him in NY- but more in a fun manner- he didnt say anything back..thats ok- and i wont push...he also asked the last time i was at our cabin i said BB- before the bomb - he threw water at me jokingly- then i playfully said sorry for saying that...ten at the end when i had to take our dog back- he said we'll get together without the dog next time...i said call me when you want to get together again....then he followed me almost home on his motorcycle- i thought he would come over but he just kept going...then he called a few hrs later and left a message checking on me and the dog..i called back and said we were all fine....
so thats where we are...i am still emotional...but i just have to stay strong- i called a friend crying and she reminded me whats attracting my H back...she said what you have been doing is working so dont break down and go back to square one...so that felt good to hear...i am slowly snapping out of it!
any words of wisdom?
thanks everyone!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Honestly doesn't ound like you need them.....read your own post! lol
The one little time where you got a little off track and things got a little awkward your H actually broke the silence by spraying water on you.
When you started off with the skunk story, I thought for certain you two were going to end up in the hot tub again......
Your friend has given you good advice......you have nothing to be upset about.
The only thing I would sugggest to you is to bury the expectations, go into your get togethers with no preconcieved notion of what it should be like, whatever you do , no matter how good it is will never live up to it. If you go in with a "go with the flow" attitude you will never be disappointed and you will have a great time......the expectation and excitment is what got you upset
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
you are so right TD- i had the expectation that at least we would be together for longer and talk more...oh well...nothing like a little skunk scent to get things off track...but a small part of me thinks its good too...he said he wanted to see me again...without our crazy skunk-dating dog...i think she seriously fell in love with it...we couldnt get her away!
we laughed a bit and it was a little stressful but i took care of it..by myself...which was a good thing for me...
hot tub- maybe next week
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
needless to say i was a bit sad (crying for an hour) that our hike got cut short...
Oh, honey...I know exactly how that feels, like you never have enough time with him. I think it might turn out to have been a good thing though (thank the skunk), because you said he seemed sad that it got but short, too.............you left him wanting more.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
hey, it's ok that it didn't go as planned. Remember, you CAN'T have expectations, or else you are bound to get disappointed. It's human nature to have expectations, esp when things are going well....but these are the times whne you should look at the positives.....cmon girl...you know what to do!
Remember, you gotta go with the flow...a skunk sprayed your dog....Sh*t happens. Look at it like that. I'm sure your H was dissapointed too. You will be able to go on a hike again....
PMA girl. PMA!!!!
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Thanks LOST and NEIL! well I had a DB coaching session yesterday and it realy made me feel strong. I learned that i do have the STAMINA and i can go the distance. she said the same thing about the skunk incident- it did leave him wanting more...and guess what...this morning he wrote me an email and here is some of what it said:
sorry for not helping you with the dog. i had to get things on order for work. luckily i did bc lets just say our R problems are childs play compared to what went on that night (he's on graeyard shift)...
he also invited me for breakfast tomorrow morning im going to a girls spa day so ill see if he can do sunday instead....
i think it is great he is putting our R in perspective...bigger issues come up in life and life is short...
i can go the distance..i do have the strength and stamina...i used to give up a lot and feel like i couldnt "take it" or "handle it"...now i can...growing pains!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Thanks Jen! i initially booked 3 now i booked another 3 pack. i do one every 2-3 weeks....i have Jody and she is amazing. very clear, calm and guides me...very intense hour. but i feel so strong and clear after it
H emails more than calls...i think its just less pressure sometimes... so im happy - back on track!
yay!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
i am doing better today. my internet was down at home so ive been off longer than i would like....