Brian, she is right. She need sto see a counselor without you. Read the words to the song again Brian. She knows in her heart that she needs to fix her if there is ever going to be an US again for you two. That is a huge step for her and you should be very proud of her for recognizing that.
She "knows" what this is doing, she is trying in her own way to fix it. Be patient brian, be compassionate, and be lovingly detached.
In teh long run, your integrity and loving way that you are helping her through this is going to pay huge dividends for you. When she comes back, y'all are going to be so much better prepared to be in a marriage because of all that you are learning.
Stay strong Brian, I know you are having a hard time seeing the calm waters beyond the crashing waves, you just have to have faith in God to see you through the storm.
Ian
Brian, You read this post and you keep it close.
For now, you be still. YOU be as still as a church mouse. I know you want to run in. You don't do it. You let her crash.
She is coming to you time after time. It's now time to get your head together.
Do you know how big her saying she is seeing a C is?? THAT"S SO HUGE.
You be humble. You do not let old Brian back out in any way.
You hang in there. You pick up the phone and dial either one of those 2 numbers you have if you need to vent.
I'm with ya brother. God's with you Brian. Stay your course. I know your tired, you stay on the track.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 08/01/0805:54 PM.
