God Bless you Jon. I've run into conflicts over music too. I am not particularly talented. Rather, I have a mediocre ear for music. I can carry a tune and well, but, I don't have a perfect ear for pitch so I have to work harder at singing. W is very talented musically. She played violin in a couple of different non-school orchestras while in HS and went to college on music scholarship, but, didn't finish. W joined choir first and then I did. I learned a lot and enjoyed it thoroughly. As male choral singers are relatively more rare, I was asked to sing with the ensemble. That really burned W up. She felt that I was taking away from her thing by being in choir and she was extra crispy about my being asked to sing with the ensemble and as much as she wanted that for herself, they never asked her to sing there. I ran into a similar dynamic after buying her a really nice camera. I looked at it like a cool new toy. She saw my attention there as another attempt to steal her glory. So, no sing right now for either of us and no camera for me. But, I'm going to learn to play bass guitar and if she doesn't like it, she can lump it :P
Jon, there are things that have been part of me for a long time that I would have trouble giving up for W. I'm sure that you will find a way for a time to put that down.
