Yeah, you probably could have handled some of that a bit differently, but look what came of it... She said she needs counseling. Now actually going might take some work, but she at least said it!
She needs to bottom out. I've got a few friends that are recovering alcoholics/adicts and the one thing that is a recurring thing in AA/NA is that most people have to hit rock bottom before they are really willing to make changes. For many people here, it took their S walking out or cheating. For her, it just might need to be everything falling apart around her. As much as it pains you to see her hurting, it's a necessary step.
Hang in there, you are doing good!
ann
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
Now actually going might take some work, but she at least said it!