Neil, yes I do see that the less time I spend without a PMA the easier it is to have a PMA.
Do you know the perfume counters at the mall? Go find a couple sample bottles that you think would smell nice on her and leave them with the coffee. I would absolutely melt if my husband did that and said I smelled these and thought of you.
I know I'm a hopeless romantic, Neil, but sometimes a little romance in the right doses is a good thing.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
KJo, Does your husband know you are hopeless romantic? I have seen you mention this a few times. This is your love language what makes you feel loved and appreciated. We tend to be attracted to opposites is what makes this whole dance frustrating. Do you know his love language?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I know I'm a hopeless romantic, Neil, but sometimes a little romance in the right doses is a good thing.
interesting. just not sure how to put it into practice without over doing it. I think the perfume thing when we're back together would be good...i just don't think right now.....pursuing, i would think. IDK
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Maybe it is pursuing a bit, but I also think it shows you were thinking about her and how she smelled. LOL. I know that sounds odd, but I think scent is very powerful.
Is it so odd for her to think of you thinking about her as a woman and not just as the waw wife? I don't think so.
I'm really not sure if my husband realizes that I'm a hopeless romantic, Coach. His love language? His is being held and looking deep into his eyes. And the nose nuzzle thing. (See yesterday.) Back rubs, etc, touching, that lets him know he's loved.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
KJo, Not sure if you realized, Coach was referring to the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It's a "Must Read", and it is very short and easy to absorb and put into practice.
So, the obvious next question (in the context of the book) is: What is YOUR love language, and do you think your H knows it?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
I haven't read the book, but I'll look for it. I'll read it and then let you know.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Quick update: My h just called to ask where the Dr's office is. He's been a bit concerned about his um, well you know, in the bedroom. I guess he was serious about it because he left work and is going to the dr's to get a script. Since I'm the only one he's ml to, I guess I can feel positive that he is going there. My mind is a little blown that he not only said he was going to call the dr, but he left work early (Very unlike him) and also let me know.
Yeah, he needed to call because the dr moved and he didn't know where it was. But he acted on it because he wants to continue ml to me. Cool. I feel very fortunate. Wowie.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
You know, guys, I can hardly believe I just put that here. I'm really holding nothing back from you.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
((KJ)), just reading & am really happy for you & the progress that you are making. I love where you said "does it get me closer to the goal". That was something I asked myself for months. Good job girl !!
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
