Recommitment issues, post affair

[sage]

Actually, my W told me last night that she had had a dream yesterday morning (in the last hour of sleep between the time I kissed her goodbye and when she had to get up herself) that she seen her grandmother (who died about 2 years ago) and her mother (with whom she is currently estranged). In the dream, their appearance was as it was 20 or 25 years ago, and she was able to hug them and enjoy the moment with them. She said that she had felt happier all day long as a result of this dream (whatever works, I guess!). I doubt if those good feelings will last long, but it did seem significant that her feelings were so closely related to her mother and grandmother.

Brian -- not to drive you into ASSumption mode...but you mentioned that w's son chose not to live with her and now you mention that she is currently estranged from her mother...seems to me (a BIG ASSumption) that perhaps w is questioning/bemoaning/feeling sadness about not having some pretty primary connections...I would definitely continue depersonalizing w's feeling of not being loved...

Sage

PS Good luck with the anniversary. Can you revel in gratitude for the time you have had together?