Sue, I don't know if this will help you feel better, my H got a DUI 4 years ago, license was suspended for a month- I drove him everywhere. H said he was drinking because of me. He had to take classes( he also did a diversion) and when I say anything about him taking a drink now, even in passing, he gets all defensive and says he has learned how much he can drink and still drive. The answer should be none!!
Not sure that my H is an alcoholic. He has just been a social drinker to the best of my knowledge. If he hasn't learned a lesson, at least his kids did.
Until they confront the demon and conquer it, the demon will still live.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory