In a state of clinical depression, one's ability to feel loved and comforted is very diminished, if not absent.
In deep depression, it can even feel as though you know that the Creator is there, you see evidence of the Creator everyday in other people's lives, but your receiver is broken. You can't even feel God's love at a time when that is desperately.
When you say that you think she doesn't feel loved by you because she doesn't value your love, it only tells me that you could learn a lot about clinical depression--there's lot's of information out there.
