Trixi trying to find moorage

[Dom R]

So much to think about.

Huh.
On the brighter side, you know he's "only" living with a guy, for sure, now.
maybe his MLC has transitioned from "looking for a woman to justify myself", to "looking for fame to justify myself".
(remember MLC = "It's all about mememememe!!!!")
Stupid that he hasnt figured out he can do that WITH you.

Obviously, I still care a great deal and am not quite ready to give him a "step up or step off" speach, but I think I am getting closer to that point. I can't imagine ever NOT caring, but that's probably how all LBS start out.

the most important thing about that is, if you're gonna do the speech.. you need to plan to do it BEFORE you dont care anymore.

The steps are:
1. give speech
2. go dark. [and thus wait for him to either make up his mind, or let the final dregs of you caring, wear off. ]
3. Get a better life for yourself.

The beauty of it is.. whichever way he chooses in step #2, you are guaranteed "a better life for yourself" in #3.



Its kinda tough to plan timing on it, though.
I've occasionally overshot the mark of "not caring any more" myself. But stepped back over the line, after some time. Temporary timeout from pain, as a defense mechanism, i guess.
I dont know when mine will fully run out. Kinda surprised it hasnt already. I thought I would give up after a year of separation. but.. still here... (WTH is wrong with me??? lol...)

Dom, what is OSC?

'Order to Show Cause'. It's the official name for pretty much any motion done as part of a divorce case. In this case, she's had an OSC for child support hanging over my head for more than a year now, even though i've been voluntarily giving more to her than she would get through the OSC (on the basis of "sharing with my wife", not "because she needs more money".).
But she still keeps it pending. Schedules a court date, then postpones to another one...

Damn rude. She would be livid, if I did that to HER. She has complained vociferously in the past, about times she felt I was "holding things over HER head"...