I just wanted to let you know I have followed your sich for awhile. My H is an alcoholic too and that throws alot more mental anguish and chaos into the mix as well. My H just got his second DUI about a month ago too.
I finally kicked him out last weekend after finding that he was talking with OW right in my own living room. We have a 4 month old daughter together and thought we were working things out.
Standing behind an alcoholic who refuses to get help is a no win situation. They are self proclaimed victims and leave disaster in their wakes.
I would love your (and anyone else's) input on my sich too.
Hang in there. You are so strong and you and your D4 will be great!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!