It isn't easy to ride the bunking bronco is it. You just get settled into the saddle and she starts bucking again. The ride will get better and better as she gets the OM out of her head. Be patient with her but not tolerant. She is "talking" a lot about how she feels which is good. It means she is comfortable around you.
I had the same problem with "hanging" on the BB too much. I realized that I felt and acted differently when I was spending time here. More angry, bitter, and depressed than normal. The newcomers area is still difficult as it brings back really bad memories. Stay away.
Believe it or not, I think you sitch will end happily. Her openness and your understanding are a good combination for success. If my sitch had either, it would have improved faster.
Good news, remember we have very similar sitchs, right? At 1:00 on September 8, 2003 I got a real life apology from my W. It was in the form of a song she found that said exactly what she needed to say to me. She was almost as lost as your W is and now loves and appreciates me like never before. This is just a sign that you should be as strong as you have been and success will come your way. Keep positive and take care of you.
