Thanks for checking in on me, yoyo and lwb. I've been trying to get on here with more that was a little less cryptic, but work has been pretty hectic lately, and i've actually been sleeping a little better (although not last night...), so not as much late night posting!!
I think odd is a good characterization of this week's events, and they've left me feeling unsure of what to do. I'll try to be brief in summarizing: H was acting really down earlier this week, so I did some email snooping. Got the sense that there had been some smallish kerfluffle between H and OW over the weekend, and that H had lied to her about some of his activities with us (possibly to avoid going by to see her on Sunday). Then found out that he was terminating his month-to-month lease for the apt(had only rented it one month, although H had told me it had started 2 weeks prior those nights were mostly with OW (kids away), and since then, stopping by for 'late evening visits' when they were already asleep) or at our house). H had emailed OW to let her know that this had happened to him because the owner only wanted to rent to him more long-term and he had declined due to cost, and some other place hadn't worked out...so he wouldn't have an apt after July 31st...that they could talk about it at a more convenient time, but that he needed to let her know... That seemed odd; at that point, I had figured H would have tried to work it out with owner to allow him to continue much more access to OW...
But what really knocked me over was an exchange the next day H had with the owner that revealed H had chosen to let go of the lease...owner responds with "i thought you were going to continue with month-to-month" H's reply that he knew owner was looking for a long-term tenant, and that he hadn't ever been sure how long he would need it... it even got a little heated with the owner about advance notice... but H still turned in the keys yesterday and stayed at our house last night. So a total lie to OW!
I feel pretty confident that this was not a ploy on H's part to get OW to offer him to live with her and her boys; she's always been the one pushing him to move forward/public with their relationship...and he has hung back. It's all about our boys, not me, I know, but it's very odd.
I know that he is still talking to OW daily, and i have a very strong feeling that he will be at OW's black belt test tonight (same school our Ss went to, so he could still do it without being "outed" by the folks there) Last night when S12 tried to get him to commit to watching a movie with us tonight, H was very vague...a common MO for him. He will likely tell us that he is going to run by school to start work on getting classwork together... or something like that.
We leave 3 weeks from today to drive our S18 up to college; I'm not going to do any boatrocking during that period...
