You've let him know that you don't like things the way they are and IMO, that's a good move.
Yesterday my H made some baby steps so I am thinking it was good to let him know how I am feeling.
Hello NG-
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I think maybe you should try to empathize with what he is telling you rather than offering him suggestions for how to fix himself. Strive to make him think that you really "get" him (even if you don't "get" him).
Thanks for reminding me. I think it is our natural instinct to want to fix things. Note to self: They have to fix themselves.
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trust yourself and see his willingness to try as a sign for the better for now
I am trying to see the positives. I just get frustrated when things seem to come to a stand still. Thanks for encouragement.
Since I let my H know of my frustration, he has been in more contact. He did invite me to go to a wedding with him next weekend. He called me yesterday and we met for a glass of wine. We really seemed to be connecting. He was talking about a conference he needed to go to in a few weeks and kind of hinted about me going. I asked him if he was inviting me. He said yes if I didn't have the kids that weekend (I do ). Without me even bringing it up, my H made a point of entering our new C appointment on his Blackberry. Later my H came over to my house to watch a movie. While he was there, I admit I pushed a little. I asked if he thought we could be happy together again. He told me he wouldn't be going to C if he didn't think it was possible. I asked him if he could see himself living in my house and he says it all seems so foreign to him. He also said he doesn't want to feel like a tenant. He did suggest that we should go away for a weekend together...I think he wants to try to reconnect in neutral territory. I wanted to suggest Retrouvaille but I'm not sure he is ready for that.
This may sound really minor but it seemed kind of significant to me because it is something he hasn't done this for a long time...while watching the movie last night, my H did lay his hand in my lap sometimes even rubbing my leg. A baby step? And then my H even called me just to talk on his way home...and he told me he had a nice time.
So good stuff happened yesterday...now back to no expectations...again!...<<<sigh>>>
). Without me even bringing it up, my H made a point of entering our new C appointment on his Blackberry. Later my H came over to my house to watch a movie. While he was there, I admit I pushed a little. I asked if he thought we could be happy together again. He told me he wouldn't be going to C if he didn't think it was possible. I asked him if he could see himself living in my house and he says it all seems so foreign to him. 
He also said he doesn't want to feel like a tenant. He did suggest that we should go away for a weekend together...I think he wants to try to reconnect in neutral territory. I wanted to suggest Retrouvaille but I'm not sure he is ready for that. 