Hi Purr- I think NG's description of what someone in MLC/depression goes through is right on. As my C explained, this depression isn't the kind we normally think of where there is sadness and sleeping all of the time. My H admits he isn't happy. When he left, he blamed me/our M but now he is figuring out that the unhappiness is within him. He told me the other day that sometimes he is happy when he is alone, sometimes he is not. Sometimes he is happy with me and the kids, sometimes he is not. He is at a point in his life where he has reached many goals and rather than feeling proud of his accomplishments, he feels like "Is that all there is?" and he doubts his successes.
My H even told me (again) last night that he thinks he has death issues. I read somewhere that MLC is the point in life where we shift from looking forward to looking back. It must be made worse if the person in crisis has unresolved issues.
