Advice from my DB coach #3

[TwinDad]

Yes, I'm seeing an IC, but honestly, she just wants me to get into the mindset of divorcing him and all that goes with it. Not much help in DB. I did tell her about DB and she 'argued' with me about it. I just stuck to my convictions, though.

Honestly I would find a new IC, one that has the same goals for you and is educated in solution oriented techniques. Michele has a section in her book about how the wrong IC can make things much worse. The first thing I did when I talked to my IC on the phone was tell her my present sitch, and that my goal was to restore and rebuild my M, then I asked her if she would support me in that effort while helping to build a better me. If she said no, then I had other numbers I could call......don't settle, your IC should be working with you not against you.

Did you mean to say that you don't feel like you have major problems or you do feel like you have them? JUst looking to clarify before responding