Stopping enabling someone (taking the money away) doesn't mean you don't love them.
This is what I tried to tell him for years.... Oh and the part I must have left out is he told them he never wants to talk to them again as ling as he lives.. cause they took advavtage of him.
So yesterday he told me that he feels that way about everyone ... me included ( didnt say it exactly to me but I sort of got that between the lines... I felt so offended. And at the same time so calm.... I thought to myself .. his loss if he thinks I am that way. I KNOW I am not....
Funny I have never been and never will be a money grubber. I love to work as a matter of fact and I respect him far too much to steal from him, or over spend. When I was single I never let a Man buy me a drink. I am babbling... thanks Cinco.... Amazingly I am sad but I feel strong....
I was weak before and stood by him and watched while his FOO sucked him dry and now I will remain strong but at the same time I feel some resentmet towards them . He isnt strond enough yet to see what I am and who I am and what I have put up with all in the name of love.
Example ... he would send 10 thousand dollars to FOO... and I would be at Garage sales and clipping coupons and had to account for every dollar spent... he would give me $.... I felt like a loser , or like a little kid.
Now since he stopped talking to them since he came home in March.( I guess he had a slight falling out back then)
HE GIVES ME THE CHECKS AND I HANDLE ALL THE MONEY...
If I even made sense Cinco.... what do you think? ~Ali
I felt like a loser , or like a little kid.
