The reality of the sitch seems to really be setting in on the W with you getting closer to moving out. She is spinning in circles cause she has no direction at the moment she has spent so much time being angry, that she hasn't taken the time to figure out what she is going to do once you are gone. She needs you to do things which angers her even more.
Good on you for not taking the bait, even though I have no doubts the things she said hurt and cut deeply, be proud of yourself for staying in check. Stay your path get the cottage done and soon the stress with be less. Keep taking care of yourself and D2.
