Just got caught up on your thread and buddy I have to say I've been there myself. You'll probably never get your W to say what you want to hear by probing like that. I know, I've tried and failed. For me it was definitely a cheeseless tunnel, but it took a long time to realize and even longer still to stop probing and parsing. If you keep up your DB efforts, your W will eventually find her own ways to express her committment. She's still there, she's not seeing or talking to the OM anymore, so don't get too impatient. It's been just over a year since last physical contact between my W and OM, and about 6 months since last electronic contact, and just in the past 2 months I've seen major positive changes in how my W talks about our R and future. You know what changed? I stopped probing for the answers I wanted to hear. Of course, YMMV, but you might consider trying another tunnel.
dcr
BTW, I'll be posting a new thread sometime today or Monday in Piecing and your input would be great.
