You don't know that. As you say things you are looking for a reaction - you may not get one at the moment. However, later she could be thinking of the situation and your response, your support is important regardless of what she is projecting. I say stick to positive, truthful things. Don't go overboard. You can't fix this, only she can. I really wish your W would talk to someone (and not OM).
I do not think she is talking to him any more. I think she realized after our last R talk that she was having an EA with him and I hope has ended it. She put some distance between me and her after that talk but lately she has been moving closer. Atleast that is how I feel.
Originally Posted By: alpha.omega62
Invite her to walk. If she doesn't want to, you go. In time hopefully she will join you.
As for the walking neither of us has been doing it because of all the stuff that needs to be done around the house. We do sit on the deck and spend time together we just do not get out and exercise while doing it.
Originally Posted By: alpha.omega62
Take a deep breath and relax. You don't have to stay on top of this every minute - sometimes a response may require a little time. Be consistent. Be who you are - nothing is more attractive than a happy, confident man who is at peace with himself.
AO
I am being myself and think I have found how to make myself happy and be more confident. There are just some things that she says that are traps for me. I try and reassure her but it does not seem to help. The I'm overweight thing is a big one and with me being logical and saying "then lets walk more, or you should go to the gym more or your beautiful to me" just seems to not be the right responce. I'm straight forward if you think your overwight diet and exersice plain ans simpile right.
But with everything I have read this is not what she wants to hear so I just wanted another women to give me a responce that they would be looking for from their man in that situation.
I do appriciate your help and I know there are many of us DAM's out there that need a good tactic for handeling these types of questions.
