How do you think you judged divorced people, and why the wives more so than the husbands?
I can't believe I will admit this, but I saw divorced people as failures. Especially women, who couldn't 'keep her husband happy'. So pathetic, my train of thought. I am ashamed of my judging, and am thankful this ordeal granted me more patience and understanding with others.
I admit that I thought the exact same thing. You hear that someone is divorced and I would automatically think, "I wonder what she did...." I talked to my pastor about how I was scared of people in the church thinking the same thing about me.
I am having a really rough time with saying I am divorced. I have gone back to my madien name and dread school starting in a few weeks. I did not want to keep his name but being a teacher, my last name is a big deal. I will have to explain to students, co-workers and parents that I am divorced. I don't want to do that. When I went into school a couple days ago to inform the secretary of my name change, she said "I already got it taken care of. I bet you are happy now that you are divorced." I have no clue how she knew what happened but I said, "no actually I am sad but doing my best to move forward." And then she said something like, "well he left you for another woman, so you should be happy." How on earth did she know that? People are talking about me. I am gossip. I really hate it.
Like many of you, the people I run with are not divorced. Divorce is so uncommon, almost like a disease, in my circle of peers. Everyone is either single or happily married. I feel like a freak.
Oh...and my XH calls me with his relationship and other problems as well.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
