I was wondering when someone was going to ask about that... The house is still on the market but I am canceling my plans to move to PA. We talked about a lot of different scenarios but in the end we felt that stability was the best thing for our M right now. (bracing for the 2x4's...)
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
You guys are working from a mouch different level of consciousness than you were last go-round. Selling the house--yes go through with it. Start your new relationship with your wife in a new home, where you will fill it with happy memories together.
Thanks for dropping by with the support. I updated last night and may have news on his advancement today, too. Still keep your fingers crossed!
I lvoe seeing the new updates on you and your W. I cannot express how overjoyed I am that she is out of the fog!
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Thanks. I was bracing because I got the sense a while ago that some people thought I was taking too much on faith, accepting her back too willingly, and that I shouldn't give up my moving plans too quickly. But I appreciate the support!
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
While I am happy for you, I guess I am the 2x4. I think your plans scared her and now that you have so easily changed them, she may not feel the urgency that she once did.
I won't go deeper because it isn't my intent to rain a thunderstorm on your happiness just a drizzle with caution.
kat In case you forgot...it hasn't even been two weeks yet.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, I will admit to making the decision with a fair amount of uncertainty. But in the end, I do think it is the best way for us to rebuild our M. Am I taking a chance? You betcha. But her commitment seems sincere - I never though I'd see it, but there it is. If things implode, there are other jobs, other options. But I only have one M and I want to give it the best chance I can.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
" was wondering when someone was going to ask about that (re: moving plans)..."
Question: Why didn't you mention it? What does that indicate to you? Does this set off any flags?
Recommiting to each other is a beautiful thing. The issue seemed to center around the dynamics with the daughters. How do you address that especially when everyone (your stepdaughter included) is on their best behavior.?
Gypsy - I really wouldn't infer a whole lot from it. While the move was a major part of my future life without W, it seems like a fairly minor thing given the potential future with her.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Heck we all want our marriages to work, that is why we are here. Honestly though, changing everything this early doesn't feel right. Perhaps she would have said yes, a new start, anew town, I know how important it is for you and your daughter to be closer. All of those true markers of commitment from her, have beeen thrown out the window.
Sacrifices come from both sides, not just yours. You have worked so hard to get to where you were as a person and I don't want that to go away because of this change on her part.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The question wasn't about the future with your wife. What struck me was that you didn't feel comfortable sharing that information for fear of 2x4's?
In this virtual world you can choose what is written. It seemed like 'hiding' because of fear of disapproval is creeping back into your thought process. My concern was that it would slowly manifest itself in your marriage.
