losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

you're doing good Chris, keep going.

Thanks Mike! Like FG asked me yesterday "So DB works?"...absolutely. There is still a long road ahead for me and the kids and they way I am looking at it now, the more stable and positive I am about me, the easier it will be to be the confident and involved parent which they will not only need but the sitch requires for the next 15+ years. The journey is just beginning in that regard and I am looking forward to it. And what's interesting, if you sit back and reflect on what MWD teaches, the core of DB can be applied along this journey as well.

Take care of the business at hand.

Doing this in a manner that hopefully will keep things from getting out of control and W and I have agreed to something that I can live with. I was reflecting last night, is sacrificing 5 to 10% of the time with the kids worth keeping things civil? She only wants shared residence with me at 35% as opposed to the 42% that I want. Only a one day a month difference and it's all about the money to her as our state allows for c/s abatement with shared residence. I can have the kids more if I want but she needs the c/s at that level I guess. And she agreed to no alimony but she wouldn't get that anyway. I have ammo for the hearing on the 14th and don't want to use it. Would rather keep it tucked in the file.

Your W is screwed up now. Document the stuff about the kids and her interactions.

It is amazing how screwed up she is. Her thinking, her priorities etc. You know, I woke up this morning, got the kids ready, fed them and was thinking how my D probably doesn't remember this morning how distant W was last night during the family party nor the statement W made to 2S about taking away her birthday...but you know, later in life, it's going to be remembered. So all of that from yesterday is documented.

You and the kids will be ok Chris..you're doing good.

Thanks again for the assurances. All of the kind words just increases my overall confidence about the sitch.

Chris