Quoting KAW:I, too, believe it stems from the fact that she is not remorseful either about having an A with this particular OM. She feels she is giving up "true love" by not being with him. She is still grieving for herself and for what she feels she is giving up. As long as she is focused her own grieving, she is not likely to comprehend the depth of the hurt she has caused me or the damage she has done to our R. Not until if or when we reach the stage where she is totally content and happy in our M, will she fully understand to the extent of what she did ... came so close to jeopardizing what she has.
Sorry, I don't have much to offer as I seem to be wondering around in the same forest...
I think perhaps, as much as it sucks, that my W may still be grieving a little for what she is giving up. I continue to hope that someday she will fully understand the full extent of what she did, but I fear that someday will never come. Anyway, great to hear from you, KAW.
