So even though she gives me a yea right look after I say she looks beautiful, I should accept that she does not feel good about herself at that moment and she hears what I am saying and that this positive responce will make her feel better later but right now it will be blown off. Basicly nothing I do or say at this moment will make her feel better, correct?
You don't know that. As you say things you are looking for a reaction - you may not get one at the moment. However, later she could be thinking of the situation and your response, your support is important regardless of what she is projecting. I say stick to positive, truthful things. Don't go overboard. You can't fix this, only she can. I really wish your W would talk to someone (and not OM).
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We use to walk alot in the spring but it has gotten so busy in the last couple of months we have not gone in a while. I would like to get back to doing it because it is quality alone time with her.
Invite her to walk. If she doesn't want to, you go. In time hopefully she will join you.
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Thanks for your responce. I need a womans perspective because I want to say lets do this or that but I know that will not go over well with her. Validate not fix.
Take a deep breath and relax. You don't have to stay on top of this every minute - sometimes a response may require a little time. Be consistent. Be who you are - nothing is more attractive than a happy, confident man who is at peace with himself.
