You are right on pace with the progress I made in my sitch. The wound is still too fresh for you to feel comfortable and confident in the M. It will come soon enough but please maintain the DB principles as you evolve out of this "non-forgiveness". I think the ebbs and flows that occur at this time really need to happen. You aren't supposed to talk about it but I really needed to tell my W how I felt. Not all of the time but sometimes I just had to. Not talking about it is like sweeping it under the rug. You can't avoid it nor can you dwell on it. You are doing fine. One trick I did was to pretend we were boyfriend/girlfriend. It is much less complicated than a M, right? The past is also of less relevance as well when you are only "dating". I also think that "connection" you are talking about is critical to the R. I felt the same way. It isn't really about the sex. Well, alittle bit .
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