Part X: Where Do We Go From Here?

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Rob - its the eclipse today, but has been eclipse fever for a few days. I've been reading and I then come here and hear you say "I'm done". I'm not surprised. I dont know what will happen from now on, but eclipses are endings and new beginnings, right.

About your W questioning you over D, I am gobsmacked at the things she says and agree with Kalni and even common sense would prevail, I can see how wrong she is and I dont even have kids!! She is using your D like a weapon against you and it is shameful. Whatever your sitch is or your R, she should NOT let this be reflected with your R with your D, she is not being a good mother frankly.

It makes me so angry that you have to "ask" her for 1/2 hour more with your D - like everyone says, there should be a clear visitation right in place, there should be no having to ask. And as for her saying no to you and then you can have her at 12 or not at all, thats disgraceful, seriously man.

I hope you can resolve this issue ASAP. I really feel for you. Your W is unhinged if she feels the need to question you as to did you have a party....and anyway, what the hell has it got to do with her if you did !??? Thats what I didnt understand. You are entitled, as a dad, with visitation rights to see your D and play with her and invite friends over if you want and its none of your W business, nor is it anything to do with her, as in she doesnt need to be invited or asked if thats ok, surely!??

I seriously dont get it. Your W is not only angry, she is bitter, really really bitter at the treatement she feels she took from you over the years and is out to punish you. But I agree with you - this is about childhood issues and her Dad and she is projecting onto you (although, I guess from what you said, some of her complaints are valid). I hate the way that she refuses to believe you have changed, or are capable of change also and that shows a mean and spiteful spirit in her - its her own unhappiness and anger at the world coming to the fore that will not allow her to let you make amends in any way.

I can see you love her, but dont like her perhaps. She is behaving very very badly toward you - and you know what the best 'revenge' is in these sitches? Go off and be happy. That will show her!

I say revenge, as this isnt in my makeup, but with your 5 planets in Scorpio, I think theres probs a part of you that would relate to that !

What you doing in Seattle on this auspicious eclipse weekend???

Ali xxx